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The conclusion is that sometimes we need to rethink our beliefs. Many of us find comfort in belief and prefer not to reconsider our opinions. However, in this era, it’s important to unlearn, relearn and reform our undertakings. Here are a few ways we can do this:
1. Think like a scientist: Scientists never let their ideas become their ideology. Furthermore, scientists always crave to answer different questions and being proven wrong is a sign of progress for them. Moreover, scientists are always in a rethinking loop which enables the finding of new knowledge. They are happy to be proven wrong multiple times in the short term so that they can be right in the end. Similarly, it’s significant for us to understand that it takes great courage to reconsider our thoughts, relook at our beliefs and rework our understanding. Altogether, “If knowledge is power, knowing what we don’t know, is wisdom.”
2. Detaching opinion from identity: The key takeaway is that we should avoid becoming too attached to our ideas and beliefs. In fact, we shouldn’t let it become a part of our identity. This will make it easier for us to move on and generate new philosophies when required. When we let our ideas become part of our identity, we become hostile to the thought of being wrong. Henceforth, our individuality shouldn’t be based on our ideas and beliefs but upon what we value. Such a calibration would ensure that we value being wrong in an optimistic way. “Opinions don’t define your reality; you can’t change your past, but you can change your future”
3. Argue about HOW not WHY: According to Mr Adam Grant “WHY conversations often get emotional, and ego led, people become dismissive of others. Logic and evidence are completely ignored. But getting into HOW changes the frame.” Once we enter a HOW conversation, we become more amenable to explore other choices and our disagreements majorly turn into a constructive discussion. Therefore, it’s extremely pivotal to start looking at conversations from a HOW lens instead of WHY. That’s the only way to achieve agreements and win-win situations.
4. Changing mindsets through Motivational Interviewing: The underlying principle according to the recent research is that human beings’ primal need is for autonomy. Based on this understanding, a couple of psychologists developed the practice of Motivational Interviewing. One of the psychologists’ states, “We can’t motivate people to change. We have a better chance of helping them find their own motivation to change.” Through this concept, the psychologists work together by asking open-ended questions, engaging in reflective listening, affirming the person’s ability and desire to change. This understanding also delivers a good filter to remove stubborn thinking which is responsible for increasing polarisation. Therefore, it’s good to practice motivational interviewing with our family, friends and even our own selves when we’re confused and don’t have a set outlook.
Takeaway: Altogether, the takeaway from this article is that change is a constant, we need to reform, rebelieve and re trust to thrive. Furthermore, we shouldn’t let our opinions become our identities or represent our realities. “Change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Written by Taneesha Arora (MYP 3A)